“It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” (Prov 21:19)
I have never lived or camped in a deserted area, but my car broke down outside of Needles, CA once and I had the opportunity to experience a few days of living in a city in the middle of the California desert. It was hot; it was lonely; it was forgettable. The resources were limited; the variety and quantity of possible activities was short. The food was scarce. The shade was nowhere to be found.
I know some people love the desert life, but I am not one of them.
And generally speaking, the desert is not a preferable place to live. If it were, we wouldn’t have hundreds and thousands of unoccupied sand.
Solomon tells us that living in the desert does have appeal over living with one type of person – an argumentative or irritating woman.
The argumentative woman says things like, “I told you so” or “You never” or “You are so annoying” or “I cannot stand it when you…” The argumentative woman cannot let things go. The argumentative woman is not quick to forgive and is looking for the next fight.
And these characteristics of her make her irritating, as Solomon says. Elsewhere he calls such a woman a dripping faucet (Proverbs 19:13). If you have ever tried to sleep and her that bathroom faucet dripping ever slowly, but consistent, you know the annoyance of such an experience.
How about you? Do people look forward to talking with you? Are you a peacemaker? Are you one who leaves a conversation having built up those you spoke with? Or do others dread when you are around or sigh when you being to open you mouth?