The Tuesday feature of the Worldly Saints blog references something I have been reading lately. The post is meant to share some of my reflections from the latest book, magazine article or blog post I have or am reading.
I have started worked my way through a number of books that I collected or bought from the 2014 ACBC Conference I attended in Sun Valley, CA this past October. Some of the books I came back with were:
- Good Mood, Bad Mood by Charles Hodges
- If I’m a Christian, Why Am I Depressed? by Bob Somerville
- Ordinary by Michael Horton
- Help! Someone I Know Has Been Abused by Jim Newheiser
- Men Counseling Men by John Street
The last book on the list, Men Counseling Men, is a hodgepodge of chapters related to different issues that relate primarily to men. Some of the chapter subjects include such things as the meaning of life, discernment, depression, anger, emotions, contentment, husbanding, fathering, godfathering, resolving conflict, lust, homosexuality, marriage, adultery, psychotropic drugs, etc.
The chapter I read yesterday – entitled “Parenting Young Children as a Father” – has been a source of meditation more so than the other chapters. With a vast array of subjects, the author does a great job offering some very practical helps on how to preach the Gospel to your kids, being committed to consistent discipline, modeling godliness to your children, etc.
On the 2nd to last page, there is a list of practical helps on “parenting that does not provoke to anger.” I found his list of nine things to be extremely helpful and I wanted to share them with you fathers especially. Just as a quick reminder, Ephesians 6:4 says, “Do you provoke your children to anger.” Here are some ways you can do that (pg. 249, Men Counseling Men).
- Do not compare siblings with one another. It communicates an unloving spirit and fosters resentment.
- Do not push achievements. We raise the bar so high, at times, that no achievement never seems good enough.
- Do not over-indulge them. If kids are accustomed to getting everything they want, they get angry when they don’t get what they desire.
- Do not discourage them. Be careful about communicating their uselessness.
- Do not make them feel like they are intruding in your life.
- Do not fail to allow them to grow up. Let them make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t overreact to small accidents.
- Do not neglect your children. Look out for their needs. Don’t be too busy for them.
- Do not use hateful words or physical cruelty.
- Give them a sense of security and safety.
If that list whets your appetite for more, I would comment Ch. 13 of Men Counseling Men and all the other chapters in this book as a helpful resource for any Christian man.